Shannon Dittemore



“I don’t believe it,” Matt said. “I don’t believe there’s ONE perfect soul-mate out there for each of us.”

How romantic of him, huh?

Matt and I were engaged. This statement–his assertion that we weren’t necessarily created for one specific person–threw me for a loop.

“We’re Christians!” I argued. “And the Bible says…”

But you know what? I couldn’t find it. I couldn’t find the invisible verse about soul-mates. Now, let me clarify. Matt absolutely believes that God directs the footsteps of the righteous (I can tell you where that verse is) and that there are absolutely examples in the Bible of God orchestrating marriages (Esther, Hosea and Gomer). But the whole idea that there’s simply one person out there for each one of us… Let’s just say that Matt’s very unromantic claim caused me to rethink this.

“You have to consider the choices of men and women everywhere,” he continued. “You have to consider free-will. We live in a fallen world where sin and death have brought consequences. Your belief has to account for that.”

Man! I hate it when my husband squashes my romantic notions! Needless to say, as I stared at my engagement ring, I was quite out of sorts. I couldn’t argue with him. There was so much wisdom in what he said. Men and women lied, cheated, divorced. People’s choices brought about death and separation. I begrudged his astuteness, to be honest. Wisdom trumping romance? How awful! And what does that mean for us, I thought. Are we not meant to be together?

“I choose you,” Matt said, pulling me from the glum I was wallowing in. “I want to marry you. I love everything that God has created you to be. So, I choose you.”

I won’t lie. My face lit up. He’d given me another romantic notion to cling to. What an intelligent man!

“Isn’t that better?” he continued. “Wouldn’t you rather be chosen?”

Why, YES I WOULD! I’d rather be chosen. It’s awesome to think that of all the options in the world, my husband used his God-given free-will to pick me out of the bunch. And I picked him right back! Now if that’s not true love, I don’t know what is.

This “I Choose You” conversation began a voyage of discovery for me. It’s caused me to consider just how incredible God’s grace is. A grace that chooses us. A grace that allows us to choose Him. A relationship that doesn’t work if we haven’t truly chosen one another. There are so many things to meditate on when you start down this path, but the most enlightening thing for me has been just how precious it is to be picked. The whole choosing paradigm shows us Christ’s love in an entirely different light. And I’m so very grateful to be chosen.

Think on this verse, friends:

But you are A CHOSEN RACE, A royal PRIESTHOOD, A HOLY NATION, A PEOPLE FOR God’s OWN POSSESSION, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light. – 1 Peter 2:9



  • Comment by Steph — February 10, 2010 @ 4:16 pm

    That Matt is a smart fella. Don’t tell him I said that 😉 This is very thought provoking post!

  • Comment by Lacey Neuman — February 11, 2010 @ 9:32 pm

    Ah how romance can cloud our vision of reality! Matt is a smart man. There is still beauty to be had in reality of life. I’m thankful that I’ve been chosen, and I love that verse and the song. 🙂

  • Comment by Karen Luke — February 12, 2010 @ 5:03 pm

    I like being “chosen” … so much better than a contract obligation

  • Comment by Rebecca Covert — February 14, 2011 @ 10:07 am

    This blog has soooo blessed me today Shanny! Thank you Shanny!

  • Comment by Bert Morfin — November 27, 2011 @ 6:35 pm

    I want going to comment as this posts a bit old now, but just wanted to say thanks.

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